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When Sam Billingham left her physically and psychologically abusive relationship in November 2006, she had no idea what was going to come next. Yet, with her 10-month-old daughter in her arms, a mind full of abuse and a split lip thanks to the latest physical onslaught, she knew it was time to make a change.

Sam, like many other victims of Domestic Abuse, fled her abusive relationship with nothing and relied on the kindness of others and the support of her family for everything from toiletries and baby food through to blankets and clothing.

You see, when you are in an abusive relationship, you will know that your perpetrator takes everything. Abusers leave formerly strong, confident and independent men and women like Sam with nothing - not an understanding of how to manage money, nor the confidence to make simple phone calls that would allow them to ask for help.

In the moments immediately after leaving her perpetrator, Sam assumed there would be a care system, a support network and rights for women that had fallen into the dark folds of a domestically abusive relationship but as the months ticked by, she realised the hundreds of women were being left to fend for themselves and disregarded as individuals in need of physical, emotional and financial support.

Less than 3 years after making that brave, life-changing break, Sam created SODA to fill in all the gaps that exist in care; support and recognition for the partners of perpetrators and the strong, courageous and incredible individuals that find the strength to escape and embrace a new life.




Currently, SODA is a small voluntary group based in the West Midlands but is in the process of becoming a registered charity. 

Much of the support we currently offer is online based but we are working hard to raise awareness, secure funding and collect supplies whilst continuing to provide emotional support, guidance and friendship to the members of our secret online group and the brave men and women that reach out to us.

Many of our team have personal experiences of Domestic Abuse and have found strength in giving guidance, friendship and love to others.

Please do connect with us, whether you need support, want to give support or learn more about Domestic Abuse, we are confident we will be able to help you.