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I was humiliated in a million different ways

Posted 24/3/2021

When you are in a deep dark hole that you can’t seem to find a way out of, everything else around you becomes oblivious.

You don’t see the sun shining, you don’t hear to birds singing and you don’t even notice that the grass is green.  When you are allowed out, you don’t notice the cars driving past you, you don’t see the traffic lights change or hear the car horn beep.  You are in a deep oblivion because the most important thing to you right now is trying to keep safe.  You try and stay safe in your own little bubble whilst trying to stay on the tightrope without falling off and cracking the eggs that lay beneath your feet.

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A campaign and hashtag is not enough to keep victims of domestic abuse safe

Posted 24/3/2021

A campaign with a new logo is a disappointing response from the Government to safeguard victims of domestic abuse, which feels as though it’s actually minimising the situation.  We have already seen an influx of domestic abuse calls and incidents over the last month, another campaign raising awareness isn’t good enough.  COVID-19 and the lockdown is not creating a crisis in domestic abuse because it’s always been there but now we have no other alternative but to confront it.  A campaign with a pretty little log and a hashtag is not going to keep anyone safe.

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Children are victims of domestic abuse in their own right

Posted 24/3/2021

When he hit me for the last time splitting my lip open as I held our 10-month-old daughter in my arms, I knew in that very instant things had to change there and then.

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My Brief Thoughts on The Domestic Abuse Bill Second Reading

Posted 24/3/2021

COVID-19 and lockdown measures has highlighted to the UK how very real domestic abuse is, how many women are at risk and how absolutely vital specialist support services are.

Domestic abuse awareness is at a high at the moment and one of the key issues that must continue, with many victims unaware that they are in an abusive relationship because they aren’t physically hurt.

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Red Flags

Posted 24/3/2021

When we are in an abusive relationship it is often difficult to see that we are in an abusive relationship.

Below I have listed some experiences of domestic abuse that I personally endured but didn’t recognise it as abuse at the time

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I'm Fine

Posted 24/3/2021

I’m fine were two words that came easy to me but two words that were a complete lie, but those I would say in the hope that people would understand that no, I wasn’t fine.

Whenever I was with him, he would make me feel so inferior to him, as though he were the adult and I the child.  Some days I never ever took my eyes off him and I would watch his ever move, from him looking at every single female he saw to every man he glared at who he knew I’d had some contact with during my past.

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You Don't Want To Fall In Love With Me

Posted 24/3/2021

All I had ever wanted was my own office, a telephone and a pen and paper.  I was always inquisitive, wanting to learn new things and as a small child, my mum heard me pretend chatting to someone on the phone, thought nothing of it, until she came into the living room after hearing me repeatedly saying hello, to her surprise another voice said hello.  I’d accidentally called an Estate Agents.

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Stay Safe, Stay Home

Posted 24/3/2021

Stay safe, stay home is a key message being pushed forward right now, but what about those people who don’t want to stay at home because it isn’t safe?

1 in 4 women and  1 in 6 men will experience domestic abuse at some point during their lifetime and with thanks to the coronavirus we will see a spike in domestic abuse incidents.

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Leaving the relationship doesn't leave the abuse behind

Posted 24/3/2021

The strength came from my 10-month-old daughter when I left my abusive relationship.  I left for her safety, if I hadn’t have had her, I would have stayed.

Leaving really wasn’t an easy thing to do.

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The pandemic and the epidemic

Posted 24/3/2021

How many of us can honestly say that when we first heard about the coronavirus, that we didn’t really think too much of it, that we thought it won’t happen to me or that we thought it wasn’t that bad?

It is already isolating us from friends and family, stopping us from celebrating Mother’s Day, it’s taking away our jobs, it’s taking away our children’s’ education.  It’s taking away the normality of life.

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