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Children are victims of domestic abuse in their own right

Posted 16/5/2021

When he hit me for the last time splitting my lip open as I held our 10-month-old daughter in my arms, I knew in that very instant things had to change there and then.

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Why Don't You Just Leave?

Posted 16/5/2021

The eggshells crack loudly beneath my feet even though I try so hard to dodge them.  The goalposts that are surrounding me are constantly moved and no matter how hard I try, everything I do is wrong, even when it’s right.

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Time After Time

Posted 16/5/2021

Existing in an abusive relationship you lose so much time.  Things pass you by, there are events you can’t attend, you miss out on making memories and significant occasions no longer exist.

Days become blurry and most of the time you don’t know what day of the week it is, you’re just lucky that today isn’t the day you die.  However, living with an abuser you eye is always on the clock, for example, you know when your abuser wants their tea on the table or the time you need to be back home before them, you learn these things along the way because they can help keep you safe.

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Music is Life

Posted 16/5/2021

“That is just not normal, no way is that possible.”

Looking back, I was so lucky in the fact that I came from a loving home, I was the youngest an the only daughter, I had a wonderful and strong relationship with my parents.

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Alcohol and Abuse

Posted 16/5/2021

When you are a victim of domestic abuse you very quickly learn how to keep yourself safe.

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You Must Have Known What He Was Like

Posted 16/5/2021

When I first met him he was just wow so smooth and charming, he didn’t give too much away but just enough to make me feel as though I needed to know more.

His smile was the one thing that really drawn me into him.  He was cheeky, charming and convincing.  When he looked at me, he made me feel as though his eyes were only for looking at me.

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Social Service Support

Posted 16/5/2021

The knock on my front door made my stomach churn and made me feel physically sick.  As I opened the door the person standing their had a huge smile on her face.  I looked at her and burst into tears.  I walked into the living room where my parents were sitting as the social worker followed me in.

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Don't be a bystander, don't just stand by

Posted 16/5/2021

I had always lived in a house with my parents so living in a block of flats was all new to me.  you could virtually hear every noise going, the lift doors opening and shutting, people walking across the corridor, the people who lived in the flat below us and above us.  After listening to all those different sounds around me, I never really took into consideration the noises other people could hear from the flat I live in with my abuser.

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It would be like walking on razor blades, if I were living with my abuser during COVID-19

Posted 16/5/2021

As the lockdown become imminent, the talk of isolation, not being able to see friends and family, only going out for shopping and not going to work, suddenly took me back to a deep dark place that I once existed.  As a nation we are being told what we can and can’t do to keep us safe, yet the one place I should have been safe, I wasn’t.

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