He isolated me from friends and famil
He told me I had slept with my boss to get my job
Accused me of having an affair with my driving instructo
Constantly told me my friends were jealous of what we had
You’re not fucking going out like that
I was timed when I went to the toilet
Very rare I could have a bath alone
I was bombarded with calls/texts when I went shopping
I was always warned, under no circumstances to let anyone into the flat when he wasn’t there
He read my text messages
He told me I was fucking selfish for drinking his orange juice that I went shopping for and brought with my own money
He would phone my phone in the middle of the night – if it was on silent it would be thrown out of the window because I’d been fucking phoning my mother again
He would constantly compare me to other partners
He would tell me how I wasn’t a proper woman
He would regularly tell me, I’d never cheat on you, I’m not being funny but I’ve got no complaints in the bedroom department with you but let’s face it, I could have any woman I wanted
He cheated on me throughout our relationship
I was fucking useless and I should be thankful to be with someone like him
I’d met him so he could save me from my problems
He shouted at me for breathing too loud
I was thrown across the living room floor for making a noise in the kitchen
He killed the pet bird because I went to bed without him
Whenever I left he would get his mum to call/text to tell me, he’s not a bad lad really
When I left him for good, he repeatedly went to my parents
One night he saw me waling with someone he thought was male and verbally abused them. It was a female friend
He threatened someone with a baseball bat because he and his partner brought me back home one night. Back in the flat, after I got undressed, he sniffed my knickers and told me I’d fucked someone else
Whoever I spoke to, I was fucking them, male or female
Before I had my daughter with him, he always told me I’d make a great mum. When I had my daughter, he told me I was shit mum
When I left and went back he would tell me I’d got to stop playing mind games, and stop treating him like that because it wasn’t fair on him
When I left, he threw my clothes down the chute and cut up my shoes
Take into consideration that this is not physical violence, this is just control that I endured during our three year relationship. I’m sure that I can add to this list too!
